How are you feeling about these last days of 2021? There has been ups and downs, progress and rollbacks for many of us around the globe. When the situation around you is uncertain and volatile, as your coach, I recommend focusing on what you can control. As a person who appreciates safety and builds security networks and environments to pursue bigger interests and objectives, this definitely works for me.
And I'm not the only one. After reading and being trained to help others gain confidence and build their self-trust and control, I've seen this work in real-life. It's been breathtaking to witness the impacts of the increased sense of self-control and control over their careers and lives in my coaching clients. I wish you saw how they grow not only mentally and emotionally but physically too!
Not only is their tone of voice calmer but they sound more self-confident and compassionate. Their elevated self-worth and shows in bigger dreams and their self-respect pushes them to make changes to live by their true needs and top priorities. All in all, their doubts and limiting thoughts have shifted to empowering ideas about their future and how they want to treat themselves to live happier and more fulfilling lives.
These changes hardly happen overnight. But by these examples, I wanted to share with you hope and inspiration to go after a life and career that you truly want for yourself.
Increasing the sense of control over yourself and your actions will have a positive impact on your mood, energy level, feelings of self-efficacy and more. This feeling of holding the cards can be a big game-changer as it has been for my clients. Focusing on control sounds like a game and it kind of is that, but playing your cards correctly works for your benefit.
Therefore, I wanted to share with you these ideas on how to wrap up the year and make plans for the new year feeling that you're holding a winning hand no one can take away from you. Get your note-taking tools ready and reflect on the next steps in my given order to make the most of your turn of the year.
Let's first look at 2021 to build readiness for 2022.
1. What has gone well for you?
First, list all the smaller and bigger events and achievements that have gone well in 2021.
Take a moment to recognise all the things that you've worked for and succeeded with. You can also think about other moments that you are grateful and happy for. Many say how they forget to pause and look back to the reached outcomes when they are focused on the next targets. Remember that celebrating successes is an important phase of reaching big targets. Giving recognition and rewarding yourself for the achievements builds your resourcefulness for the next adventures and gives an important boost of self-efficacy.
2. What could you do differently?
Sometimes you just nail it! Often times there is room for improvement. Think about the events and actions that didn't go as planned and try to identify what you could have done differently. Or what you would like to change when the next similar task or issue comes.
Remember that this is a moment for learning, not for blame. The idea is that you can come out stronger to face other internal or external challenges.
3. What was most fulfilling?
Think about what you enjoyed doing the most. Notice first which emotions are most important to you and what you would need/want to experience also in 2022. These emotions in mind, make a list of all the tasks, actions or important projects that made you feel happy, joyous, valued, fulfilled - any feeling that you find important to you.
Make sure to include these or similar activities in your next year's plans. So, you will experience what nurtures your emotional well-being as well as simply enjoy doing what matters to you. What else would you ask yourself?
4. What you didn't enjoy?
To make room for the things that you find important and you want to focus on also in the future, we'll check what we can reduce or eliminate. We can do so by thinking about what we don't enjoy and what do not give us joy and fulfilment - any feelings that we need/want to experience. Usually, we cannot give away everything we don't enjoy but often we have more to say than we give ourselves credit to.
List the events and activities that you didn't find important, valuable or fun. If these appear in your next year's plans, think about if you can replace them with something more enjoyable. If there is simply no way to leave them out, try to think of another more enjoyable or less painful and consuming way of doing it to get the same results. Remember that you can adjust the ones that you have control over. If those tasks are something that others require from you, you can maybe suggest other ways of delivering or doing the tasks. At least come up with a reward when you get them done!
Now that you've celebrated the successes, identified what you find fulfilling and how you could adjust your actions and plans to enjoy more, let's look at the bigger plans for 2022!
5. What you're dreaming about?
Dreaming is an important phase of planning, growth and enjoying the journey. So, I'm inviting you to write down your biggest dreams. Come up with at least 3 and don't think about how to make them come true just yet. Often this will limit our brainstorming and diminish our true dreams.
When you've written down your dreams, choose the one that you want to start with. Here you prioritise them - you can even put them in order of importance - and choose the one that you find the most important or compelling to start progressing first. What do you want for yourself and when do you want this to have happened?
6. How to progress your dream?
Now that you have a target date when you want to have your desired outcome reached, think about the first action you can make towards that.
You can go back to steps 3 and 4 and look at the things that you have included in your next year's plans whether you enjoyed them or not. You planned how to have more of those feelings and experiences that you want to have in your life and career. You have also looked at the ways you can make the unenjoyable more enjoyable and gain more control over the necessary activities. Then it's time to make sure that you have room for your dreams.
Put your target date in your calendar as well as the first steps that you want to make to advance your dream coming true. When those are written down and somewhere you'll see them (like your calendar), it's more likely you'll make time for them. Remember these are your dreams. How do you want to see and experience them?
My latest years have been filled with experiences and helping others as I value them the most. They give me a sense of being valued, loved and fulfilled. Therefore, I want you to experience what you value the most. Clarify your plans and discover how to fulfil your responsibilities, objectives and dreams for 2022 using professional guidance. Take the LIVIO JOY Taster Experience to progress your desires to a new level with me. Our holiday deal expires on the 31st of December so buy your Taster Experience today - it can be experienced before summer.
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What are your best insights from wrapping up 2021 and raising the feeling of controlling your future?